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I'm 56. If I think of someone I can hear their voice in my mind. I cannot do the same with peoples faces, including close family. Never have been able to. I spoke with a friend a few years ago, who is totally blind (from childhood) I was talking about Irlens syndrome and how I learn things. She listened and said she was quite astounded, because she could relate to most of the things I said, though my eyesight is ok. I can sketch really good, but has to be what is in front of me, there and then (requires lots of constant checks and rechecks). I can draw an image ok, if it is a plan of something, in my mind. If it was of someones garden, for example, I tend to have to know the garden well, I guess from pacing around it many times, having an idea of where things are. For the first time ever (about 15 years ago) I deliberately tried to hold onto the image of a freinds face, who's house I had just left. That morning talking to my niece, it came up that my freind and her daughter did modeling work. My neice said that my friend must be very pretty. I said yes but when I tried to think what she looked like, I did not have a clue and am still the same. when I tried to hold onto the image of my freind, when leaving I just nived it fading out of my mind and after about 10 minutes had gone altogether. I recognise people as soon as I see them again. occasionally I think of a photograph, I have and it can sometimes help to give me a quick flash of how they look (sometimes) other than that I only get a very quick snippet of someones face, which I think is connected to a recollection of an emotion felt at that time. Is like a revelation of- hey, thers me mums face and then it dissappears and no idea (in my mind) what she looks like. I can describe (roughly) height, hair colour, limp etc. Women seem to think I'm ace coz I can always tell if anyone has had their hair done since I last saw them- It would be the first thing my mind is drawn to in a room. Not a major problem, usually- kind of makes me less shallow, I think, though I have to work at not overlooking at someone, which I think, now, is my mind trying to find a way to hold onto what I see. That is the same with people I know who have facial disfigerment. Looking at a face, soley, is difficult and my eyes dart rapidly back and forth between something else, but I'm guessing that has more to do with my Irlens. I have strategies that help me and am rather good at most sports, however I will trip over if focus on one thing only. I spent most of my childhood in A and E for really silly things. Am not sure if I want to change how I am. Facebook has helped a lot. Would it improve my life ? would it make me more shallow, missing the important things that makes an individual, behind the facade? Hope ok sharing.