Lifetip 3: Disagree with yourself

This lifetip is one that could get a spot on a tile or an inspirational quote:

You don't have to believe everything you think.

To me it means that it's OK to let go of ideas you may have had in the past. For example, I used to think vegetarians were delusional, annoying and unhealthy. Now I believe that being vegetarian does not mean forsaking flavor, nor do I have to dress in hemp and grow dreadlocks. Also, it's just undeniably better for the planet than maintaining a meat-based diet will ever be.

Another interpretation of this motto would start by breaking with the commonplace assumption that a person's internal thoughts are always a monologue.

I suppose we all know the catholic mantra "What would Jesus do?". It is a way of internalizing the voice of someone who's morality you would want to apply to specific dilemma. Without getting to psychological about it, I hope we can agree that every person also has a "What would my mother do?" checkpoint, that pops up at specific moments (not always conveniently).

The happiness gurus of the 21st century might say the line refers to the negative thoughts we all have sometimes. Thoughts such as:

I am not good enough.
The world is unkind / dangerous.
I can't do it (so I'm not even going to try).

A meaningful (and sad) metaphor that is sometimes used in this context is that of the domesticated elephant, that has been chained and 'broken' at an early age. During this time, she may have struggled to free herself but failed, leading her to believe it is impossible to do. Once grown, the elephant obeys orders to move and carry heavy objects. The same chain would be no match for the power she could apply to it as an adult elephant. At that point though, what keeps her from trying, is the belief that she can't.

So.

Evaluate the thoughts you have every now and then. Don't be afraid of changing a strong opinion you may have had out of fear of being seen as inconsistent or unstable.

Discuss your insecurities with the ones you love and trust. It will oftentimes be those moments, when you vocalize your thoughts, that you realize that is not what you believe at all. Saying them out loud will reveal their untruth. Just like a ridiculous dream, that makes total sense until the moment you wake up.